Compromise – to settle a dispute by mutual concession. “in the end we compromised and deferred the issue”

Similar: meet each other halfway, find the middle ground, come to terms, come to an understanding, make a deal, make concessions, find a happy medium, strike a balance, give and take, split the difference.

  1. to accept standards that are lower than is desirable. “we were not prepared to compromise on safety”

What standard are we to accept relative to unborn human life? Does God have a standard for us or did He leave it up to mankind to establish a standard? If God has no standard in this matter, then what we choose to do is our business. If God does have a standard, then we will give an account to Him for our choices that were not in agreement with His standard. 

I recall a moment several years ago on the campus of CSU during a Woman’s Rights protest. I just happened to be there at that time. I had not gone to be a part of the protest. The Pro Lifers and Pro Choicers were marching about, and chanting, carrying signs for their cause. I engaged one with a Pro Choice sign and asked, “Did you know that God is pro choice?” She looked at me inquisitively and asked, “How so?” I said, “He laid out clearly what life and death, blessing and cursing mean and He instructed us to choose life.” She was not impressed and spun on her heels, returning to chanting and hoisting her sign in the air.

Deuteronomy 30:19-20

19 “I call on heaven and earth to witness against you today that I have presented you with life and death, the blessing and the curse. Therefore, choose life, so that you will live, you and your descendants, 20 loving Adonai your God, paying attention to what he says and clinging to him — for that is the purpose of your life! On this depends the length of time you will live in the land Adonai swore he would give to your ancestors Avraham, Yitz’chak and Ya‘akov.”


Pretty clear and simple, right?  Why do we make it so complicated?  Why do we choose to compromise God’s standards?

How can a woman love God and choose to abort a child He has placed in her womb? How can she make that decision at the very end of the pregnancy as the child is about to take its first breath?

One way to do that is to say or believe it was not God who placed the child in the womb. If we believe that pregnancy is always the result of a man and woman having sex at the right time of the month without using birth control and God has nothing to do with this miracle of life, then we can believe it is simply a natural biological process. No big deal. A mass of human cells that develop in the womb which can be terminated without consequences, kind of like removing a tumor. We can believe it is even beneficial to our health. We can even convince ourselves it is a woman’s right to choose.

What happens to the man’s right to become a father? Granted, most men who father unwanted children don’t want the responsibility of fatherhood, but suppose there is a man out there who wants to be a father. Does he have a right to preserve and protect his unborn child? Why is it only a woman’s choice? What about the man’s choice?

Forty years ago, my first wife was diagnosed with a brain tumor. The doctors said they could attempt to remove it but it would just grow back again. Eventually, this kind of cancer would end her life. The doctor wanted to do the surgery immediately. He said the surgery would cause the the premature birth of our baby, so he recommended we abort the child.

We told the doctor we wanted to wait until we were closer to the child’s term, then do the brain surgery. Obviously frustrated with us, the doctor blurted out, “No one has ever recovered from this kind of brain cancer! Your wife will be dead in two years and you will be stuck raising that child!”

Thank God my wife and I were in agreement. We could not see how ending the child’s life was reasonable or beneficial to all involved, so we chose to let him live. That was the right choice and I am so glad we made it! As the doctor predicted, Janice did die within two years. I was a single dad for one year. Then God provided my current spouse of these last 37 years, Debby, who adopted my two sons, added her daughter to our family and gave me another son. 

Compromise is what we do when we don’t recognize God’s standard. We may not recognize it due to ignorance or due to our choice to believe or not to believe. Nevertheless, God is pro-choice. He wants us to choose life. His Word makes life and death, blessing and cursing clear to us. Choose life!